Metal, rock and everything heavier
Metalhead Dating: Meet Metal and Rock Singles Who Live Loud
Doom, black metal, grunge, thrash or classic rock: the riffs are heavy, the dates needn't be.
What's it like dating a metalhead?
Dating a metalhead means loud weekends, quiet nights in and someone who will defend their favourite subgenre like a family heirloom. On 2cool2date, metal and rock singles flirt, swap recommendations and find someone to go to gigs with, and admirers who couldn't name a single riff are welcome too.
The music is brutal. The people are anything but. Metal crowds hold doors, hand back phones dropped in the pit and point lost strangers towards the bar, and that good nature carries straight over into dates.
2cool2date is adults only, and it isn't fussy about which kind of heavy you're into. Rock dating, grunge nostalgia, black metal at full volume: if it's loud and it matters to you, bring it.
How to plan a first gig date
A gig can be a brilliant first date or two hours of shouting "what?" at each other. The difference is a little planning.
- Meet before the doors open. A drink or some food somewhere busy nearby, so you can actually talk before the support band starts.
- Pick a gig you'd both go to anyway. If one of you lives for black metal and the other for grunge, find the overlap or take turns choosing.
- Bring earplugs. Good ones keep the music sounding like music, and you'll want your hearing for whatever your date says after the encore.
- Agree a pit plan. Some go in, some hold the coats, and both are honourable callings. If anyone goes down, you pick them up: the one rule every pit agrees on, and not a bad policy for dating either.
- Sort out getting home. Get yourself there and back, tell a friend where you'll be, and remember the last train won't wait for an encore.
Our guide to meeting safely covers the rest, and where to meet alternative singles has ideas for nights that aren't gigs.
Are metalheads secretly softies?
Often, yes. The person in the patched battle jacket who looks like they could carry the drum kit home single-handed is very likely the one who rescues spiders, cries at films about dogs and knows every cat on their street by name. Heavy music, gentle people. Plan accordingly.
Every kind of heavy has a place here
- Heavy metal
- Thrash
- Doom
- Black metal
- Death metal
- Sludge
- Prog
- Power metal
- Folk metal
- Metalcore
- Grunge
- Hard rock
Nobody has to pass a test. If you only got into heavy music last year, welcome. If your battle jacket has patches older than some of the bands on the bill, welcome too.
Write up last night's gig in Spaces, where members put up articles, stories and hot takes, and see who comes back with a strong opinion and a decent recommendation. In this scene, a good debate counts as flirting.
Metal shares a wardrobe with the goth dating crowd, a lot of ink with tattoo dating, and more singalongs than it would ever admit with emo dating.
Questions metalheads ask
Is 2cool2date a metal dating site?
Among other things, yes. It welcomes every heavy scene: metal and rock of all kinds, plus the goths, punks and emos who tend to turn up at the same gigs. If you're a metalhead, this is your kind of crowd.
Do I need to like the same kind of metal as my date?
No, though a little overlap helps. A lot of good dates start with "I've never heard of them, play me something" and end with a playlist neither of you would have made alone.
Is a gig a good first date?
It can be, as long as the gig isn't the whole date. Talk first over a drink or some food, then let the band take the second half of the evening.
What if I fancy metalheads but don't listen to metal?
You're welcome. Be curious, ask for three songs to start with, and listen to them properly. Calling it noise can wait until at least the third date.
Can I find someone to go to gigs with?
Make it easy for them to find you. List the subgenres you follow, mention the gigs you've already got tickets for, and see who asks about the spare.
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