Safety
Alternative Dating Safety: Your Look, Your Rules
Checks you can see, tools you control and people on hand day and night, so you can save the drama for your wardrobe.
Is 2cool2date safe?
It's built to be. 2cool2date has optional ID and video checks, uploads screened by software and human reviewers, a blur over pictures that might be explicit until you choose to look, instant blocking, reporting from inside the site and human support by chat and messaging, day and night. Your own judgement does the rest.
The protections working while you flirt
Some of these you'll use yourself. Others run in the background, so you can get on with the flirting.
ID check and badge
An optional ID check, at no charge on any plan, puts an ID verified badge on your profile. Staff can also validate a profile, adding an admin validation badge.
A badge shows someone has been checked, which gives catfish less room to work.
Live video check
A moderator confirms on a live video call that a member is who they say they are, with no documents involved.
Proof of a real face, without handing over anything sensitive.
Age checks
Ages are estimated automatically, with further checks wherever the law requires them.
It helps keep an adults-only site for adults.
A username, not your name
Members know you by your username. Your real name and email stay off the public profile, and your location shows as your nearest town or city, nothing more precise.
Your address and live location stay yours, which makes you much harder to track down off the site.
Block and report
Blocking takes effect immediately, and any member, message or post can be reported from inside the site.
Blocked members lose all contact with you, and a report puts the problem in front of the team.
Reputation and thumbs
Each member carries a reputation score built from other members' feedback, including one-click thumbs up or down.
You get a feel for how someone treats people before you reply.
Scam and bot spotting
Software watches for the patterns bots and scammers leave behind, and you get a warning if someone tries to shift your conversation to another messaging app.
Rushing people off the site is a favourite scam tactic, and the warning buys you a moment to think.
Screening and fast takedown
Every photo, video and post is screened as it's uploaded, by software and human reviewers. Anything shared without someone's consent comes down fast once it's reported.
The aim is to stop harmful material before anyone sees it, and to make sure images shared without permission don't linger.
Explicit image blur
Pictures that could be explicit are blurred, with a warning, until you choose to see them.
Less chance of an unwanted surprise when you open a message on the bus.
Support, day and night
Real people answer by chat and messaging, at any hour.
Help when you need it, not when an office opens.
Secure hosting, shared standards
Payments and data sit on PCI-compliant cloud hosting with SSL encryption, and HubPeople, the dating service provider 2cool2date is built with, takes part in the Online Dating and Discovery Association's work on safety standards.
Card details and messages travel encrypted, and safety practice here is shaped alongside the wider dating industry.
What are the community rules?
Eight of them, none complicated. Break them and you can lose your place on the site.
- Adults only
- Strictly 18+. No exceptions.
- Genuine members only
- Members are here for themselves, so no selling goods or services to anyone.
- Be kind
- Courtesy in messages, chat rooms and comments. If someone isn't your type, a polite no does the job.
- Be tolerant
- No racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism or hate of any other kind.
- Be safe
- Keep first chats on the site, never share bank details, and never send money or gift cards.
- Be discreet
- Recognise a member at a gig or in the street? Keep it to yourself unless they've told you an approach is welcome.
- Respect boundaries
- "No" means move on. Ask before you send anyone an image.
- Follow the law
- Nothing illegal in messages, posts, photos or chat rooms.
Taking it offline without the horror-film ending
The well-worn advice holds up because it works. Keep chatting on 2cool2date until you're sure, meet somewhere busy and public, tell a friend where you'll be and who with, get yourself there and back, and leave the moment something feels wrong.
Wear what you like while you're at it. A look is never an invitation, and the person wearing it decides what happens next. Our guide to meeting safely walks through the whole night, from the first chat to the trip home.
How do you block or report someone?
Block them first: from that moment they can't message you or see your profile. Then report them from inside the site so the team can look into it, and give them a thumbs down if they earned one.
If something feels urgent, message support by chat at any hour. If you're ever in danger in person, call your local emergency number first and sort out the rest later.
Safety questions people ask
Is my personal information safe on 2cool2date?
Your profile carries a username rather than your name, and your email is never on show. Card details and personal data are kept on secure, PCI-compliant hosting and travel encrypted. What you reveal in chat is up to you, so take your time.
What should I do if someone asks me for money?
Stop replying, block them and report them. Asking members for money breaks the member terms, and it's the oldest dating scam in the book. Never send cash, bank details or gift cards, however good the story sounds.
What does a badge on a profile prove?
An ID verified badge means that member passed the ID check; an admin validation badge means staff reviewed the profile. Neither tells you what someone is like, so read their messages, check their reputation and trust your instincts.
Can I report someone I met in person?
Yes. Report their profile from inside the site and tell support by chat what happened. If you were hurt or threatened, contact the police as well.
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